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Relationship conflict
Fights and tension are often not “the end”, but a repeating pattern you can break — when you calm down first and communicate clearly.
Calm first. Decisions later. No pressure.
3 simple rules for right now
1) One issue at a time
Don’t try to solve the entire relationship in one conversation. Pick one thing to improve today.
2) Regulate the tension first
If your body is tense, a 10-minute pause helps more than forcing the next sentence.
3) Describe, don’t accuse
“I feel pressure and I shut down” works better than “You always…”.
Start the conversation (no blank mind)
Help me break the fight pattern and get back to calm →Rewrite what I want to say — calm and clear →Is this a fixable crisis or a serious red flag? →
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